Empath dating empath
This is because whatever you do or don’t achieve, it doesn’t change the underlying assumptions.
Those assumptions of unworthiness need to be cleared out on a deep subconscious level in order for your self-image to be healed.
You can’t heal unworthiness by reading a blogpost, but you can get a sense of the mechanism of it that keeps you stuck, and the steps required to heal.
Knowing this is super important, because it allows you to evaluate your triggers accurately.
Then you set another boundary, do another nice thing for yourself, more unworthiness surfaces etc.
It has taken me almost an entire year to accept that she is right.Yet in doing that, you’re taking away other people’s opportunities for growth. Please take a moment to acknowledge the logic of this: following the commandments that come forth from unworthiness, lead only to further entrenching the unworthiness. A product of an alcoholic/schizophrenic father (my therapist calls the tyrant) and an enabling/co-dependent mother and the oldest sibling of 4 that held everything and everyone together, I found finally — at 48 — made the connection between this dynamic and the subtle patterns of love relationships in my life.You’re filling in the blanks for them, stopping them from having empowering learning experiences. It’s a way to dig your heels in, not a way to find your way out. My ex-husband is NOT a narcissist but a sweet wonderful person who grew up with a passive father and a controlling mother who I now believe was a narcissist, and who was so repressed he could not connect intimately; in fact, I do not think he knows what that means!As long as your helping efforts are driven by guilt, shame and unworthiness, you’ll more easily be doing others a disservice. I never really considered myself an empath, but always knew I was a “highly sensitive person” – I have always been told I am “intuitive”, etc.You’ll start doing other people’s spiritual and emotional homework for them, you’ll start meddling, you’ll start overextending yourself, all in an effort to give more. I am exactly at the point you mention in this blog – trying to replace that “I am unworthy of love” inner recording with one that says “I AM worthy of love, and I am not going to love someone who will not or cannot love me back!!